10 Sexy Date Night Ideas + One Unsexy Date Night Idea
Looking for sexy date night ideas? Look no further! Want one unsexy date night idea thrown in for no real reason? I got you.
1. Lingerie Shopping: Head to a store or order online in advance and have a little fashion show. Of course it’d be awesome if you can afford to support a local store or ethical online retailer and not a corporate giant, but do what you can when you can bb.
2. Sex Toy Research: You’re a sex toy scientist on the verge of releasing your new product. But first you have to do some test runs on a new subject! (or just drop the charades and just try out a new toy). Another opportunity to support a local and/or small biz.
3. Share Erotic Fantasies or Slutty Stories: What do you think about when you masturbate? What do you look up when you look up porn? What's the sluttiest thing you’ve ever done? Spill the tea and learn something about your partner in the process.
4. Burlesque, boylesque, pole, a go-go bar, a strip club or an otherwise sexy show: Support a local performer doing their sexy thing. Check for events on Facebook by searching for some local burlesque or pole classes or bars that host shows. If you go to the strip club, know your strip club etiquette and always tip at the rack (the seats closest to the pole) and don’t touch or grope the dancers.
5. Naked anything: Hot tub, night swim, strip poker... mow the lawn? (okay, maybe not anything)
6. A Kink Event or Play Party: Join FetLife for a listing of events in your area. Some events will be open to the public. Many events are vetted and you may need to attend a meetup or two before getting permission to attend. But luckily this will give you time to check out the scene without pressure. Have fun and play responsibly!
*Not a Big Dinner: You know what's not sexy? A giant, filling dinner full of rich foods that activates your IBS and makes you sleepy. This is often peoples go-to date night idea and while I think it's great fun... it's not super sexy. Unless food is your thing, in which case, have at it.
7. Mind Altering Substances: To make weed, alcohol, mushrooms, or MDMA sexy and not scary, my advice is to microdose. Take waaaay less than you would if you were trying to have a solo experience. Sex doesn’t have to be on the table here, but it can be a bonding experience that brings you closer and you might be surprised by how sexy you find it.
8. Massage Night: Give and receive massage that's all about feeling good in your bodies and together. Go slow and be lazy. Use a massage oil (or coconut oil) so that your hands glide over your partner's body. Ask for feedback on pressure and give feedback on what you want. Bonus: this is good practice for giving guidance in how you like to be touched and for receiving guidance on your touch.
9. Take a class or get sweaty together: Nothing is cuter than watching your boo learn something new, especially something physical. Visit the pole or burlesque studio you already looked up for a fun class, or hit the gym together. Sure, you might want to shower off before you do anything sexy (or not?) but you can always hit the showers together!
10. Porn Review: Rent or find some old-school or obscure porn and dissect the plot. Or pay for an ethical porn site subscription. Share what turns you on and laugh/wonder/get curious about the rest. Try something outside your norm and see what it's like!
What other ideas you got? Drop em in the comments below!